Family and friend dynamics are the grounds upon which we learn our lessons. It is where much Karma is incurred, or released and balanced. Here are a few thoughts that I would like to share with you to try to help make your journeys easier and more enjoyable.
First, I would like to suggest that working out childhood issues is rarely beneficial unless both parties in the discussion are willing to let go of the pain instead of needing to show the pain and explain the pain to the other, which is the dysfunctional norm we operate under. All that does is bring the pain from the past zooming in to the present and make it alive again without resolving anything, since in that type of discussion everyone’s walls are up and solidly resisting the negative energy from the other.
The best way to resolve this in enlightened families is for both parties to acknowledge that life is a series of events that happen to guide us and open us up to the Light, and that during that journey we will be exposed to the Dark energies that surround us so that we may experience them, know them, and then choose to move past them. A family that is spiritually growing has to at some point choose to move past the Darkness stage, and move to knowing the Light. The journey getting there was no fun and hardships happened on all sides for all members of a family or friends, but that was the journey to know Darkness. The people themselves are good people. They are not the Darkness. The Darkness is separate and is an energy surrounding, encasing, good people. The situations themselves are not the people, and the negative energy itself is not the people. We are all working our way back to our pure natural state of pure light, along the way we will all carry burdens of Darkness, until we release them.
Once the above is acknowledged then the next step is to acknowledge that Karma is being balanced or unbalanced all the time by our day to day actions. Having family talks/releases of pent up pain does not balance the Karma unless everyone drops all resistance and judgement and accepts unquestioning and unchallenging all that is shared, knowing that from the others perspective that is how they see things. From my experience this is a very hard task. It is very easy to start defending and defending some more and counter arguing and so forth… and then each member of the family/friends who were on the defensive start to list their resentments, and historic issues come to the surface, in an attempt to not be seen as such a bad person as the other sees you as, and on goes the cycle. The Karma is not reduced in this scenario.
The fact is that we each planned our lives before we were born. We planned just how much Darkness we would be exposed to, how, why, when, and by whom. To be enlightened means to acknowledge that, and to not try to find some slippery excuse to forget that truth. If there is anyone to be angry with it is with our selves, our Souls, our Guides and our Angels, all of whom helped us plan our lives and are the ones who are keeping us on track to accomplish all that we set out to accomplish. Much as it might be hard to acknowledge, the other actors in our life’s play should be given a standing ovation for playing their part so well.
In an enlightened family the above would be well understood, and if someone had something bothering them, then instead of bringing the past roaring back into the present all that person would need to do is go to the other Human Being whom the issue is with and let them know that there is an issue that needs healing, Karma that needs to be balanced, emotions safely released. Then they would resolve to do Ho’oponopono on the issues, without going into any details or anything at all, without confrontation, with the intent that this be healed for everyone involved. Maybe the Ho’oponopono is done together or alone, but the idea is that both sides would do it to heal the energy between each other and free each other. If both sides are not available for any reason then you should take on the task as a gift both to yourself and the other.
It is not necessary for you to understand your childhood traumas or to have the insights of what happened when. Most Humans don’t trust the Light and that is why their healing happens after they get insights, as they want to understand things before they let the Light take action. The truth is that the insights can happen on levels far deeper than our conscious mind. Ask your Guides and Angels to only give you the bare minimum of conscious insights so that you are released from all this processing all the time. That is punishment in itself. Be free of it. Trust the Light to take care of you, and trust your Soul to get the lessons without the conscious mind being involved. Healings, releases and spiritual growth can be achieved oh so much more smoothly with the above in place.
Since we are not all perfect yet, Holy Spirit healing energies can help a great deal with Family Dynamics. To help people get along again. Parents and children issues, young and old, should not be left to fester, as it builds long term repercussions.